Will I let my family and friends down if I tell them I need donor eggs?

  1.  mrs clarke

    Hi! This is my first attempt with donor eggs. I’ll start the treatment in March, 2016, but I still haven’t chosen a donor that fits my needs. I’ve already told some friends because I’ve come to terms with it and I don’t mind it… But I feel as if I’ve let them down because every time I try to have a conversation about it, they give me the silent treatment. I don’t want to keep donor eggs a secret, but they are like forcing me to doing so. I think it is because they don’t want to bring up the topic and I guess the reason behind it is genetics, as always.

    Is there anyone in a similar situation? Please, share your opinion, it’ll be helpful!

    January 19, 2016 at 8:09 am
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  2. Sandra F. Sandra F.
    inviTRA's Moderator


    My advice is that you should tell them if you feel the need or if it makes you feel better. You won’t let anybody down because of having used donor eggs; therefore, there is no reason to keep it a secret. Many women nowadays undergo egg donation, and still counting. Thanks to egg donation, many healthy children is now living in a family happily. You should not feel ashamed; otherwise you may transmit these feelings to your child.

    The following topics may be of interest as well:

    Why is egg donation still a taboo among fertility treatments?
    Keeping donor eggs a secret or not?

    I hope I have clarified all your concerns,


    January 20, 2016 at 12:03 pm
    #8181 Reply
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