First-time mom, single mother and signs of postpartum depression

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    Hello, I hope you can be of assistance for us, because I’m really worried about my daughter. I’m 47 and she’s 23. She’s just had my cute grandson, and though I’m extremely happy, I’m concerned because she’s not only a first-time mom but also a single mom. The father didn’t want to talk to her anymore as soon as he found out she was pregnant, and of course doesn’t want the baby. My daughter has been sad throughout her whole pregnancy. I thought she would be happier once the baby was born, and now that we’ve got him at home, she continues to show depression signs. I honestly think this is a case of postpartum depression, what do you think?

    November 15, 2015 at 12:27 pm
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    Sandra F.
    Fertility counselor

    Hello penny_melody,

    According to statistics, 1 in 7 women suffer from postpartum depression (PPD). In this case, the situation is even more difficult because of being a single mom and the fact that the father left. Commonly, women in this situation do not realize it is a case of postpartum depression, but it is someone close to her who observes some signs of potential postnatal depression. Although it is a time of happiness, feeling kind of blue during the first few days or weeks following childbirth does not mean it is a case of depression. In other words, some degree of emotional vulnerability is expected after childbirth, mainly because having a baby means a huge change in your lifestyle.

    The following are the most common signs of postpartum depression:

    – Difficulty concentrating
    – Hypersensitivity and/or irritability
    – Anxiety and worry most of the time
    – Crying (or tearfulness)
    – Anger and other negative feelings, e.g. sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, or even guilt.
    – Loss of interest in activities you usually enjoy
    – Trouble sleeping
    – Exhaustion
    – Fatigue
    – Changes in eating habits
    – Backaches, stomachaches, headaches, etc.

    Besides, usually women suffering from PPD think they don’t qualify for taking care of their baby, and therefore believe they may harm him/her or at least can’t adequately care for him/her.

    If your daughter presents some or all the above mentioned symptoms or thinks she may hurt the baby or herself, or she is incapable of taking care of the newborn, my advice is that you seek professional counseling immediately.

    Best wishes and thank you for getting involved

    December 16, 2015 at 12:52 pm
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    So, you became a mother. The joy of relatives raged, all the flowers died a long time ago, with which the happy father met you from the hospital. Strong weekdays began. Days, filled to the last minute with children’s weeping, washing, ironing, cleaning and cooking.
    Why do we need to fight depression?
    First, not only you is suffering, but also a child. After all, the baby, in spite of the fact that she/he is very small, also feels that he is a stranger to you. So, you do not have an emotional contact. And its so important at this tender age. It was found that maternal postpartum depression affects the child negatively. Especially on the formation of a sense of security, internal mechanisms of self-defense. As well as concentration, development of speech.
    Secondly, there is no assistance on the part and your own internal reserves to deal with depression. Then it will not “resolve” by itself. On the contrary, your condition will only get worse every day. Remember the stories of moms and grandmothers about how they remember the first year of their child (especially the first child) as a nightmare? A nightmare can last from several days to several years. And the longer it lasts, the more it affects all aspects of family life.

    July 11, 2017 at 1:46 pm