How long should we have faith on nature before giving IVF a try?

  1.  wife and husband

    Hello, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for as long as 7 months but I still haven’t fallen pregnant. I’m wondering what’s going on because I’m just 29 and he’s 31 so we are young enough to have no problems with fertilization. We don’t know what to do… we have sex like twice or three times a day, but nothing. Do you think we should visit a clinic to have it checked? I’m concerned because I know my eggs are worse as time goes by… But we’d prefer to get a natural pregnancy if possible. Thank you, please give me some guidance.

    March 27, 2016 at 5:14 pm
  2. Sandra F. Sandra F.
    Fertility counselor

    Hello there,

    if you wish to have a baby and haven’t become pregnant after a whole year trying to conceive, you should consider visiting an specialist in assisted human reproduction indeed. Either you or your husband may have some problem related to fertility which is hindering your chances of getting pregnant.

    Today, assisted reproduction techniques such as artificial insemination (AI), in vitro fertilization (IVF), intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI), sperm donation, egg donation, etc. are available so that everyone can have the chance to make their dream of becoming parents come true.

    In the case of women over 35, they should visit a fertility clinic after 6 months TTC with no luck. This is because age is a key factor when it comes to dealing with female fertility, since ovarian reserve starts declining from age 35 onwards.

    Best of luck!

    April 7, 2016 at 11:14 am
  3. My advice is that 1 year or even 1/2 is okay for trying to get pregnant on your own. And then if you start with IUI, another year may pass by trying… In our case, we did this and now we don’t know what to do because IUI hasn’t worked and doc said we need IVF no doubt, but we live in the UK and cannot afford it as it’s cost is around 10-15K… We are desperate to have a baby but for the moment it is impossible for us…

    April 9, 2016 at 11:08 am
    • Sandra F. Sandra F.
      Fertility counselor

      Dear marlene55,

      getting IVF treatment on the NHS is possible provided that local clinical commissioning groups (CCGs) decide whether to fund it or not. Even though IVF treatment is free on NHS up to three attempts, the presence of inconsistencies may lead couple to end up having to finance it at their own expense and get private treatment. Have you tried to get if free on NHS? Maybe you are eligible for it, ask your healthcare provider.

      In principle and according to information available on the official NHS website, IVF should be available on the NHS in the following cases:

      – Women aged between 23 and 29 at the time of the treatment.
      – One or both of you suffer from a fertility problem (azoospermia, blocked fallopian tubes, etc.)
      – Having been infertile for over 3 years

      Some CCGs apply additional requirements such as being in a healthy weight (BMI range from 19 up to 30), not smoking, not having children, being within certain specific age ranges… Anyway, NHS-funded IVF treatment has waiting lists which length is variable, but as a general rule they are very long, especially in some areas of the UK.

      Even if you are eligible for NHS-funded IVF treatment, fertility dug prescription charges must be financed at the patient’s own expense unless you’re exempt from prescription charges. You can get more information here: Can I get IVF treatment on the NHS?

      I hope I have been able to help,


      April 11, 2016 at 8:48 am
  4. Hello everyone, my situation was quite similar to yours. Our story started like 5.5 years ago. We married 7 years ago, and at first we used birth control pills because we didn’t want a baby that soon. You know, we wanted to travel all around the world, settle down, etc. 2 yrs later, we decided that bringing a baby home would be the most rewarding experience in our lives, so I stopped with the pill and we got to work but without becoming obsessed, just having sex as we usually did and if a baby came, he would be welcome! We thought pregnancy would come eventually but after 3.5 years we realized something was going on. Then we started having intercourse actively for 1.5 years but still nothing happened. After tons of tests we found out I had uterine polyps… If we’d only have visited a clinic sooner!!! I was 33 by that time, a little bit old to get pregnant. I had them removed 2 months later so apparently our fertility issues were solved! Then my hubby showed only 2% motile sperm in ejaculate so IUI didn’t work. I got a depression and we decided to get a break because by that time we knew we both had become OBSESSED. We went again for another IUI but doc was clear that our treatment of choice was IVF. We decided to give IUI 3 more tries before moving to IVF because we couldn’t afford it then. At the same time we saved as much money as we could and when we were ready we started IVF. I was 34 then… and guess what, I got a BFP!!! 😀

    April 13, 2016 at 10:12 am
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