I’d like to know if, bearing in mind that I’m about to start a surrogacy treatment using donor eggs but my husband’s sperm, I can select the donor myself. I ask this question because to be honest I’d like to meet the donor in person, or at least have a smal chat with her, just to make sure the person who is about to deliver half the material load of my baby-to-be is the correct one. What if I find some personality traits of her are just contrary to my principles? I think I have the right to do this… I’m uncomfortable if it’s the clinic that chooses her, honestly.
Do I have any chance?
Regards11/25/2015 at 12:08 pm
Dear Keeley Ann,
Ukrainian law on surrogacy and assisted reproduction techniques establishes that, at least, the intended father delivers half the genetic material, but the other half, i.e. the egg, can be delivered by an egg donor.
Nevertheless, when an egg donor is used, she must remain anonymous, which means that selecting the person who will be your donor is in the hands of the fertility clinic. I’m afraid Ukrainian law only allows the intended parents to get to know their potential donor provided that she’s a close relative.
Hope this answers your query,
Best wishes12/03/2015 at 12:22 pm
Dear Keeley Ann,
I’m from Ukraine. To undergo surrogacy here, the father MUST deliver his semen sample. Otherwise you won’t be allowed to undergo surrogacy.
Although Ukrainian law only says that at least one of the prospective parents has to deliver his/her genetic load, my advice is that it is always the father as you may have further problems in the future when you come back to your home country and register the baby. For example, in Spain they only do paternity tests so you necessarily need the genetic material of the father.
Maybe you can get information on whether more advanced techniques such PGS could help you with this.
I don’t know what your problem is, but if this is not the solution you’d better travel to the USA since everything is easier there. I think it is the same in Canada.
Best.04/01/2016 at 12:17 pm
Unfortunately, Keely Ann is correct. Legally you the donors are anonymous and must remain so. A good agency will be sure you have good choices and accurate information. Their reputation rests on this. Good ones do very thorough testing before they present options to you. Most are highly educated women. Happy to share more. S03/07/2018 at 6:59 pm
I’d agree. Every clinic has its requirements for the donors. And it should take time needed for their thourough examination to exclude every potential risk. In my clinic for example donors have to be of age 18-25 yrs old. They must be in perfect physical and mental condition. No genetic diseases in donor and her family. At least 1 kid of her own meaning proven fertility. We also could choose out donor from the clinic’s database. It was huge, so the choice we made was not fast. (More than 600 youngies to choose from!!) The clinic offers 3D photos and short introductive videos of their donors. they offer their profiles with more details on their education. job, hobbies etc. I believe this is a nice thing to know your donor is a talanted and well educated person. Our lady was 23 yrs old with a daughter of her own. She’s very attractive. With long fair hair and small nose. Her eyes sparkling. This amazed us. Like those giving you hope for soon luck. We made the choice and she produced many healthy eggs for our ET. I’ll be always thankful to her for this. And graceful to all of the staff.08/15/2018 at 2:50 pm
Hello, only if you find a donor somehow by yourself, which is very difficult to do at least because of the language barrier. In case the clinic is suggesting you donors, you can’t contact them directly but you will have a full description of a person and her interests, hobbies. Plus you will see childhood photos of her.04/14/2018 at 5:13 pm
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