Female ejaculation: What is it and where does it come from?

Female ejaculation, commonly called squirting, is a natural phenomenon which actual existence has been questioned in today’s society by a number of people. Often confused with urine, the most solid medical explanation on its origin says that it comes out from the urethra, and not from the vagina.

Although there exist countless myths and misconceptions about it, the truth is that it is nothing but a healthy, natural phenomenon that can happen at any time, to any woman: during and after pregnancy, after menopause, or even after a hysterectomy.

The various sections of this article are assembled in the following table of contents.

Where does it come out from?

In women, the glandular tissue located below the bladder and surrounding the urethra appears to be homologous to the male prostate. It is called female prostate or Skene’s glands, and is the source of a white, viscous secretion that exits from the urethra upon sexual arousal.

Many women produce this liquid—even in small quantities—, which means that all of them can experience the female ejaculation. Although it is clear that being able to ejaculate depends to a great extent on the Skene’s glands, the truth is that it still remains an enigma for experts.

The nerve roots of the clitoris surrounding the urethra make it an especially sensitive area which is commonly known as G-spot. It is in this area where we can find the Skene’s glands that, apart from producing estrogens, secrete this fluid.

It is important to make a distinction between ejaculating, squirting and gushing:

  • Ejaculating: It comes out from the urethra despite being produced by the Skene’s glands from the G-spot.
  • Squirting: It is defined as a form of dilute urine that is generated by the bladder, but exits from the urethra as well.
  • Gushing: It involves the expulsion of clear fluid from the urinary bladder.

An important difference between ejaculating and squirting is linked to their compounds: given that the fluid women expel when squirting comes from the bladder, its composition is quite similar to that of urine.

Stimulating the G-Spot makes the blood flow to be higher in these glands, which gets them to expel this liquid through the urethra. This is an important fact to keep in mind, as many people believe that women ejaculate through the vagina.

It is estimated that about 10 to 50% of women squirt at orgasm. It should be clear that, even though the vagina segregates a lubricant fluid to ease penetration, the female ejaculation has its own urethral exit at orgasm.

The way in which each woman achieves it is also different. The quantity of fluid that is produced as well as how it is expelled varies from woman to woman. While some do it little by little in small quantities, others are able to shoot a big load.

Composition, smell and appearance

It is an odorless and tasteless milky fluid which color ranges from whitish to transparent. For some women, it smells like urine or even ammonia, a fact that can be explained by the presence of small traces of urine, as it moves through the lower portion of the urethra before being expelled.

This substance, which is released by the urethra and not by the vagina, contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP). These substances are released by the Skene’s glands, and can be found in urine too, although in lower concentrations.

The analysis of this substance has revealed the presence of other components, such as:

  • Urea and creatinine in smaller portions than in urine.
  • Compounds that are also present in the seminal fluid, except for sperms.
  • Traces of glucose
  • Zinc

A number of analyses have identified in the ejaculate of many women the presence of antimicrobial secretions. In such cases, it was proven that women who are actually capable of expelling this substance when ejaculating had fewer chances of suffering from urinary tract infections (UTIs) caused by sex.

Some people believe that not all women are capable of ejaculating, which is to say, that it is all about training and practice. The truth is, no definitive studies have been conducted to date from which we can affirm or refute how true is this. Because of this uncertainty, there exist a number of myths and misconceptions surrounding this topic, which are described below:

“It doesn’t exist: it’s nothing but urine”

Many women believe that they urinate during intercourse, which makes them feel insecure. Because of these feelings, several women have undergone surgery in the bladder because they thought it was a case of incontinence.

We know, however, that it’s not due to urinary incontinence, since this exit of fluids occurs even after the woman has urinated. Furthermore, this fluid, the composition of which is different from the urine, only exits during sexual intercourse and not with physical efforts.

While some women have to rest for a few hours before it happens again, others get it on several occasions in a short time period. How many times a woman may ejaculate depends on a number of factors such as age, physical conditions, and the fear she has to urinate, among others.

“It is necessary for pregnancy as it turns sex into a ‘full’ experience”

The old wives’ tale saying that women who are actually capable of ejaculating experience more pleasant sexual intercourse and are more likely to become pregnant is not true. In other words: ejaculating is not a sign of pregnancy.

Again, it depends on each particular case, and having the ability to do so does not necessarily mean a greater level of overall sexual satisfaction. It is nothing but another type of sexual response.

“It is not possible after menopause”

There is no physical reason why a woman should stop experiencing ejaculatory orgasms after menopause. There is a common misconception in today’s society which associates the end of a woman’s sex life with menopause.

Although it is true that hormonal fluctuations may have an influence on a woman’s libido, turning to hormone replacement therapies, or just waiting for the body to readjust its hormonal levels can help with it and make intercourse as pleasant as it has always been.

“Only a few women can ejaculate”

To date, data has shown that around 60% of women admits having been able to ejaculate at least once in their lifetime. There are two main causes why not every woman might be able to ejaculate:

  • Not every woman has the Skene’s glands (also known as female prostate) as developed as to produce enough liquid to be appreciated.
  • Even if their Skene’s glands are mature enough, most women hold themselves back for fear of urinating.

FAQs from users

Is female ejaculation unsafe during pregnancy?

No, it is not. Women can continue with their sex life despite being pregnant. In fact, some are able to experience ejaculation for the first time during pregnancy as a consequence of undo pressure on the pelvic regions.

Will I be able to ejaculate after hysterectomy?

As seen earlier, experts have not reached a consensus on whether female ejaculation actually exists or not. Nevertheless, be it involuntary urine or an actual fluid originated from the Skene’s glands, it does not come out from the uterus or cervix, so the answer is no: hysterectomy would not change a woman’s ability to ejaculate.

What are the main health benefits of female ejaculate?

The following is a list of the most common benefits reported by those who have experienced it at least once in their lifetime:

  • Extraordinary intense orgasm, which causes not only physical and sexual pleasure, but also mental enjoyment.
  • It can increase a woman’s sexual confidence
  • It can improve a couple’s sex life
  • It gives women the chance to learn more about their bodies and how some relevant parts function

How do you get a woman to ejaculate?

Firstly, urinating before engaging into sexual intercourse may be the key to achieve climax while dispelling any doubt arising and being sure that it is nothing but ejaculation.

Stimulating the clitoris helps, too. If a woman feels that she has to urinate and pushes with the muscles of her vagina, ejaculation is very likely to happen.

Those couples who experience the female ejaculation brag about it. An orgasm combined with female ejaculation is one of the most intense feelings that a woman can experience.

What is the relationship between female ejaculation and back pain?

Back pain associated with orgasms, whether ejaculation occurs or not, is a condition called female dysorgasmia. However, not much is known about this alteration to date.

It usually happens when a woman climaxes, and appears in the form of a cramp-like pain in the lower part of the abdomen which can be referred to the back or rectum area. Most patients describe it as an intense, bothersome pain that passes within a few minutes.

Some studies have found that, given the fact that it occurs most often in women aged 35 to 55, it may be linked to menopause. Other theories associate it with the presence of ovarian cysts, endometriosis or fibroids.

Does female ejaculate kill sperm?

No, it does not. Neither is it true that urine kills sperm, so even if your ejaculate fluid contained urine or if a woman pees before having sex, her chances of getting pregnant would not be affected.

What is true is that some women produce antisperm antibodies naturally which can “kill” sperm and compromise a couple’s chances for having a baby. To learn more, we recommend you to visit the following post: What are antisperm antibodies?

Why is female ejaculation known as “Amrita” or “nectar of the gods”?

The esoteric tradition of Hinduism and Buddhism known as Tantra or tantric sex refers to female ejaculation, squirting and gushing as amrita, which meaning is, in fact, nectar of the gods. It is also known as kalas. According to Tantra, having the ability to produce kalas is a manifestation of a woman’s sexual energy.


  1. usuario

    Hello, I’m a 46-year-old woman and have just recently discovered this ejaculate. I was just wondering why now after many years of having enjoyable sex with my husband. We’re separated and it was with a different man. Please explain.

    • avatar
      Sandra F.Fertility counselor

      Hello Melissa,

      Female ejaculation does not always happen, it depends on the situation and how stimulated you were. It is estimated that around 60% of women can ejaculate. Some experts even state that female ejaculation is something that has to be learnt, which means that you may need some training to do so. In your case, maybe it is because you haven’t gained the confidence to do it to date, and now you’ve just experienced the greatest orgasm. It depends on each woman and the particular situation.

      Hope this helps

    • usuario

      Because he wasn’t hitting that spot!

    • usuario

      Better than the other way around! Had you experienced this with your former partner, and then couldn’t get there with the new one? Well, that would have been really disappointing!

    • usuario

      My first wife and I were involved in a 69 position and she ejaculated enough to soak my face and the pillow underneath my head. Never will forget the experience. My current wife had never experienced an ejaculation until we got married. She can actually squirt an we love it. I’m a true believer in women ejaculating when they are satisfied

  2. usuario

    I have been ejaculating since my 20s. I am now 49 years old and I though my days of squirting were coming to an end. Then I started dating a 34-year-old man and I’m having the best sex of my life. The are times I cannot stop the fluid from coming out. Eight minutes of gushing… I think I just ran out of fluids. The next day I squirted out of the blue. Amazing.

    • usuario
      Kelly cozad

      Yeah, most of that was urine. With a much smaller gland than the male counterpart, the prostate gland, it is highly unlikely that more than 5cc was actual ejaculate. I’ve learned how to control mine so I don’t urinate, usually…

      • usuario

        I’m being honest: your reply was very rude. You were not there, so you cannot so divinitively assert that you know what fluids were coming out of another woman.

        I have amazing sex with my husband, and have ejaculated just as she describes, over and over and over. Believe me, it was not urine. You can see, and smell, and taste (yes, I said “taste”!) the difference! It’s amazing. I hope you are one day able to relax and enjoy the same kind of intense orgasm 🙂

        • usuario

          I agree with u Ashley. I have repeatedly squirted within one session and I’ve continually tasted it as well, and it’s not urine. Also I have recently experienced something new. The day after I’ve had intense sex, if I get aroused and no release, I feel the gland full. I’ve urinated and it doesn’t change it. I’ve been to a doc when it’s happened and there’s no UTI or bladder infection. It was the skene’s gland full. My arousals, since I’ve been releasing the fluids, have caused it to fill up more easily on a regular basis. And right after I make myself squirt, it’s all back to normal. I wonder if this is how a guy feels with blue balls… lol

        • usuario

          I am 31 and have experienced this before but now with my fiance I do everytime and I had to get used to it and we were just searching about the fluids out of curiosity because he’s never experienced this until now and I’m getting comfortable and yes the taste is good he says and I tried some from his mouth and it doesn’t smell or taste like urine well I never tasted urine but lol it wasn’t urine.

      • usuario

        Dear Kelly Cozad,
        A man’s prostate gland only produces approx. 25% of the ejaculate volume. There’s a LOT more going on than just the prostate.
        Seminal fluid (semen) is actually produced in a variety of different locations including the testes (1-5%), prostate gland (25-30%), seminal vesicle (65-70%), and the bulbourethral glands (less than 1%).
        If we were to use an analogy comparing the male reproductive system to a river system, the testicles would be the headwaters, the epididymis would be a small holding pond for the sperm, the seminal vesicles would be the first tributary stream, the prostate gland would be the second tributary stream, the bulbourethral (Cowper’s) glands would be the final tributary stream, and the tip of the penis would be the outflow. Strange analogy, but it works.

    • usuario

      I have a new lover and though I squirted before it is now in gushes and gushes soaking the bed that I’ve never experienced before. And yes, I am 49 so go figure.it startled me at first but he taught me what it was and this discovery has been an amazing revelation. And no, it does not smell or taste like urine.

      • usuario

        Hi, I am 54. Been with my wife for 33yrs. She has been a squirter for 32 yrs and facts are facts… We have waterproof pad on our bed that said doesn’t look like pee or smell like pee don’t stain and she’s like a fire hose iget off on getting her off again and again lol just my 2cents

        • usuario

          It is really interesting to go through and read conversations on this topic.
          I just experienced this for the first time TODAY… which is why I found this thread in the first place.
          I was by myself and it was a wonderful experience. Didn’t smell like urine (or taste like it either… think what ya want to think! I was curious!). Its truly an insane experience. Im actually jealous of those who get to enjoy it regularly 🙂

        • usuario

          Just what my fiance says he gets pleasured just pleasuring me. Nice that there are other men who think the same.

      • usuario

        I had never even heard of this until 8 years ago when I met a man who told me about it and he started me on the path to enjoying squirting, he was the first person who helped me squirt and since then I am happy that I continue to enjoy it and although he and I are not together I won’t forget him for teaching me how to do it. I have dated several men since then and they have loved getting me to squirt. The taste is very appealing to them and an extreme turn on for them.

  3. usuario

    I have to ask if you have any proof that this is in fact for real:

    It’s hard to find any evidence online and the last documentary I saw (2015) they were still saying that not a single trial has proven this. Also that it is far too much ejaculation in most cases in videos for these glands to produce even if it would be true.

    • usuario

      People thought the world was flat for a long time too, that doesn’t mean it ever was. The proof is in all of the comments on here saying it’s real. I have also experienced this first hand with my wife. I think most women could have a squirting orgasm IF they just relaxed and enjoyed the moment instead of thinking so much. My wife and I both empty our bladders before we begin any sexual antics. Trust me when I tell you that it tastes, smells, looks, and feels nothing like urine.

  4. usuario

    I have not yet experienced female ejaculation yet. For sure I look forward to meeting one who can ejaculate for me for at least 3 minutes like Laura. I wish I were her boyfriend.

  5. usuario

    I’m a 66 year old male. Last night I had my first experience with female ejaculation in quantities I previously considered impossible. My partner had a tremendous orgasm while I was stimulating her G-spot with my fingers. She gushed what seemed like a pint at the time. On closer inspection of the “wet spot” afterward, it seemed closer to 4oz. She had emptied her bladder before we ever started, so I know it wasn’t urine and it smelled and tasted nothing like urine. She has had the experience a few times before with other partners and she is 60. This was our first time and I hope to experience more of this and so does she.

    I had a partner a few years ago that I think was avoiding this. She would stop intercourse as we were approaching orgasm and get up to use the restroom, yet she would always say she couldn’t go. She always emptied her bladder before we started, so it probably wasn’t her bladder. My best guess now is that she thought she was going to urinate and was embarrassed to let go.

    My advise to women that do this is to LET IT GO! Even if you do urinate it’s not the end of the world and if your partner cares about you it won’t matter. Besides, you might be cheating yourself out of the best orgasm you’ve ever had!

  6. usuario

    I am a 38-year-old woman and have ejaculated for my very first time with my hubby! The fluid seemed to increase with each ejaculation. It was the most unbelievable orgasm I ever had… earth shaking!!! And I haven’t stopped! My G-spot was higher than normal and took us practice to find that spot and hit it! Plus, I found an awesome glass toy that hits it perfectly! We have caught the liquid in glasses to drink it and it’s 100% not urine. It has a delicious tangy taste. Mmmm yummy! Awesome article!

    • usuario

      I agree! I just squirted for the first time a few days ago!

  7. usuario

    Yes, there is such a thing as female ejaculation. Not a myth.

    Yes, it can have to do with the woman’s skene’s glands. There are many different sizes, shapes, and placements in the vulvar area. All that is normal variation in women.

    If you cannot ejaculate, IT DOES NOT mean that your skene’s glands are not “mature enough”. Please don’t believe someone who says or implies that there is something defective or wrong with your body if you don’t build up enough liquid to send it flying. It may trickle, it may gush, or you may not notice anything. It may not even happen during orgasm at all.

    There are lots of methods to try to bring it on. They usually involve hours of deep stimulation. It may take years to find what works for you, if anything.

    Don’t forget to relax and enjoy.

    • usuario

      You are right on with everything you said. Good for you in telling the truth in “how, when & why, etc.”

  8. usuario
    Ms Tsunami

    I am 61 years old. I have had previous lovers who only rarely got me to ejaculate. However, my current partner/lover, 69 years old, successfully gets me to ejaculate every time we have sex. Last time he was down on me and I ejaculated on his face which was embarrassing but I could not have done anything to stop it. He says that it gave him a surprise but was perfectly happy with the experience if not a little shocked. I am a little worried though that he may not want to go down on me again which I really enjoy. Should I be worried?

    • avatar
      Sandra F.Fertility counselor

      Hi Ms Tsunami,

      As you may know, some women are able to ejaculate and others don’t or just learn how to do it eventually. Female ejaculation is not the same as having a female orgasm; what I mean is that having no ejaculation doesn’t mean a woman hasn’t reached an orgasm, not vice versa.

      Men are usually very proud when they are the reason behind a woman’s ejaculate, so probably your partner feels this way, too. Anyway, this is a very personal issue that should be discussed calmly and carefully.

      Best regards

    • usuario

      No, you should NOT worry. My guess is he will be eager to have a repeat performance. Ask him about it.

  9. usuario

    Consider the urethral sponge which lies behind the vaginal wall around the ‘g-spot’ area. Skene’s gland lies within the sponge. The area is rich with nerve roots shared with clitoris body. It expands with blood helping to stop urination [analogous to male erection, which also stops urination]. Focus on a ‘g-spot’ or point on inner vaginal wall misses all the glory behind that area, and all of potential pleasure and natural release is natural to human sexuality. These glands, etc. have been known for hundreds of years. Many today still know little of this wonderful female potential…

    • usuario

      So true Carl! They know more about the ocean than a woman’s true anatomy and personally sex ed isn’t being taught correctly for this main reason! Girls should be given the true facts about their body and the true pleasures they can experience! So sad that they’re being kept from honest pleasure of their wondrous beautiful bodies are truly capable of!

  10. usuario
    Kelly cozad

    Anything more than 5 ml is urine. The Skene’s gland, the female equivalent to a prostrate gland, is only capable of producing that much ejaculate. PERIOD!

    • usuario

      Says who….you? And what’s your expertise? Cuz seen a contest and you show me a man or human that pisses in gallons, and produces more each squirt which I have also… it’s not camera tricks, you morons! Love how people who have never experienced or witnessed it love to put their 2 cents in!! And the Earth is flat.. Keep reaching!

      • usuario

        PREACH jen!

    • usuario

      Really wondering if you truly do squirt. 1st of all when I ejaculate it’s multiple times in a row, seconds apart and with each I feel my gland refill over and over with the amount of fluid increasing with every squirt. Filled 1 1/2 quart jars and sweety sorry it was clear as can be and tasted deliciously sweet! That’s funny the size of the skenes… LOL. When mine is at it’s fullest and I push out we can visually see it’s the size of a softball! Quit telling people that’s all it produces period your no doctor and seems to me you’re not giving it your EVERYTHING! Each woman is different, especially in the effort she puts forth in orgasm too! Have a great day!

      • usuario

        Jennifer is a FIRECRACKER. Love this LADY

      • usuario

        Hi Jennifer, What do you mean “…the size of a softball”…? WHAT exactly is that big? I have noticed my orgasms changing since I started researching my anatomy. I’m hoping I’m close!

    • usuario

      Please stop equating the female anatomy to that of a male. There have not been adequate studies to say how much ejaculate is possible. I personally regularly produce more than 5 cc during orgasm. I empty my bladder before and the feeling or composition is not at all comparable to that of urination. In fact, if I go too long without release, I become bloated and uncomfortable. This can only be relieved by orgasm.

    • usuario

      For the women who are leaving rude comments it’s apparent you’ve never had the experience we all have, I’m currently 47yrs old and have been able to ejaculate for many many yrs. It is one of he most rewarding feelings and intense orgasms, it is not urinating or any of the false accusations that apparently have been brainwashed into your head. My suggestion is instead of making false comments about something you obviously don’t know much about why don’t you commit to at least trying it and when you finally succeeded at it, give a written apology bc I’m sure these women here will not treat you the same way you treated us.

    • usuario

      Are you a doctor???

  11. usuario
    Kelly Cozad

    As matter of fact, I am a pathologist at a large teaching hospital. Perhaps you should donate your body to science, or go see a urologist or by gynecologist. As what you describe is far from normal and very interesting. I do experience this phenomenon personally and witnessed it up close at numerous sex parties. It is indeed very real, but in the quantities you describe it is urine. If golden showers turn you on go for it. It feels good and turns him on. I am not shamed by the fact my body does this but it is urine, period. There have been a few small studies, which have concluded the same, urine combined with a small amount of ejaculate. When you have your PhD, I’ll allow your criticism, until then have a pleasant day.

    • usuario

      Reference: Zaviacic, M. and B. Whipple. “Update on the Female Prostate and the Phenomenon of Female Ejaculation. Journal of Sex Research” (1993) 30:148.

      Well, with having a PhD, you shouldn’t go by 1 or 2 studies and you are also generalizing saying a woman only ejaculates 5 ml, PERIOD. And I do not need any degree to know my own body. I was speaking from personal experience and never stated that my orgasm was normal and every squirter should be having one like this, PERIOD. Read Whipple’s research, she also has a PhD. Her degree led her to actual FACTS and with you having such a degree next time state facts, just because you’re urinating after 5 ml doesn’t mean everyone does. Show us your research results. I came on this site to tell my personal experience and a person sure couldn’t tell you had such a degree by reading your 1st post 🙂 Cuz you said this is the way it is, period 🙂 You have a splendid day Dr… lol.

      • usuario

        I feel your anguish Jennifer. Someone who has never seen the show, denying it’s plausibility.

        • usuario

          So true Joe 😉 LOVE ignorance..& how can a research pathologist be so close-minded? There’s this female doctor who has a discussion site answering questions on female ejaculation in which she even denies the existence of the g-spot & of course has never ejaculated in which she revealed after I had questioned her! So how the heck can this so called doctor have a whole site answering questions on a subject they have no medical training/expertise on? & her references were from a UK study done of 7 women…:O! Then we wonder why society ?’s it’s actual existence (squirting/gushing). Thank you Joe!!! We need more men like you out there! I am a firecracker but mainly behind closed door…lol, I just get frustrated that still in this day & age in how many females are regressing their own sexuality by making & believing delusional crazy theories such as it’s just pee or that women don’t have a prostate…& wish all women could be as lucky as I am because it all has to do with finding that special someone who makes you feel 100% comfortable in the bedroom & I’m pretty sure Joe you know exactly what I’m talking about;-) !

    • usuario
      S C

      What rubbish, Kelly! It cannot possibly be urine if you are constantly coming, as i have just recently discovered! I bought a new vibrator, a tiny but soooo powerful rechargeable vibrator and I’m sooo addicted to it. I don’t squirt, I GUSH and it doesn’t feel anything like urinating but nonetheless the first few times have been nerve-wracking. I swear there is half a litre there. I’ve had to layer soooo many towels under me, the first time was a complete mess, i even tasted it, nothing like urine… Please, stop saying that, that’s what scares women, it’s terrible! I’m a 52 year old woman and I haven’t had this happening to me for the past 30 years, thank GOD for this new little vibrator, I’m in love annnnd i can gush again within minutes… You’re off your head saying those things!

  12. usuario

    Hey ladies, know what? I think the truth is, you’re actually highly frustrated because you can’t stand the fact that women CANNOT ejaculate, and that’s all folks. But I don’t understand why, cos you’ve got way more resources than men to feel pleasure. Did you know the female’s orgasm is way more pleasant than that of males? So, yes, we can’t ejaculate, but what is it to you? We have clitoris, G-spot, etc. Stop arguing about this non-sense.

    • usuario

      Says the person who can’t even post under an actual name… lmao c2c!

    • usuario

      Wow! Pleasure isn’t tangible and can ONLY be measured by the “feelings” of the person experiencing it. It’s like saying your orgasm is more pleasurable than mine, which to me, it isn’t. Your orgasm wasn’t pleasurable to me and I’m sure mine doesn’t mean a thing to you. By denying that a female CAN ejaculate, it’s YOU that is missing out. If my orgasms were any better, I’d pass out. Yes, a female has a lot more nerve endings in her clitoris than a man has in his penis, but that doesn’t mean much in the great scheme of things. My nerve endings get a LOT of stimulation during normal vaginal sex and a woman’s get a lot less. The very existence of your “G-spot” has been denied by a lot of scientists, but I can assure you it exists and that my prostate can be just as pleasurable for me when stimulated as your G-spot is for you. Unless you can have a “male orgasm” don’t tell me it’s not as pleasurable as a female’s. I have seen MANY women experience ejaculation. Saying it doesn’t exist doesn’t make it disappear any more than saying God doesn’t exist makes Him non-existant, except for the person saying it.

    • usuario

      Hey, c2c, did you know that a man can actually orgasm without ejaculating? *gasp*. Whaaaat? It’s true, I can make my man shake all over from the intense pleasure he experiences.

      Likewise, female ejaculatjon absolutely exists. There is no doubt about it. Just because the rest of the world can’t seem to get up to speed on the subject, doesn’t mean it’s a myth. It just means that not every one has experienced it. Period. It’s like when scientists find a living animal that they once thought was extinct. It was always there, they just couldn’t find it. Well, I hope you find it, lady. 😉

      • usuario

        Dear Ashley,

        Could you please explain how men can actually orgasm without ejaculating?

        Thank you in advance

        • usuario

          WHAT IS THERE TO EXPLAIN, M? Sometimes if a man has already emptied himself (if you know what i mean) there just isn’t much left. And that is just one example.

        • usuario

          I’m 67 years old and often have an orgasm without ejaculating. There’s many reasons this can occur. One is retrograde ejaculation (look it up!). The ejaculate actually goes into the bladder because of weak muscles that keep the urethra going to the bladder closed during climax. Older men have less ejaculate in general. Dehydration can cause a lack of semen in a man of any age.
          If there’s a blockage in any of the “plumbing” this can happen. If there was any surgery involving the prostate, it can happen. With proper training, a man can control his Kegel muscles to do many things, including controlling his ejaculation during climax.
          So, YES, it can and does happen.

    • usuario

      YES!!! Men and women are jealous, so they’re saying it’s just urine! The best response I got back was that is squirters like me shouldn’t be bragging, cuz us being able to squirt just means that we are hermaphrodites!

  13. usuario
    Gayle Jr

    I’ve been squirting for a long time. My theory is that it is easier if you stimulate the clitoris with your fingers (masturbation) or your partner does it. I think with sex, the penis blocks the exit of ejaculate in some way… So, whenever I feel I’m about to ejaculate, I ask him to pull out his penis and then I squirt… Such a pleasant sensation!! It’s something similar to the pull-out method, but this time applied to girls, and not boys. Last time I did it 15 times in a row!!! And here’s a tip: you’ll have more orgasms and will be able to squirt after giving birth to your 1st child 😉 That’s what happened to me!

    • usuario

      Same here… a penis or dildo definitely has to be pulled out and then… AAAAAHH and we repeat that over and over till I don’t fill up with juices anymore! Great point to mention. Thanx!

    • usuario

      That may be what works for you two, but I would just like to add that… Well, I like it. It definitely happens easier with fingers, but I still squirt with full penetration. I don’t know what the difference is. My only point is, maybe don’t give up trying? If you want to 🙂

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    Hege S Borgersen


    I’m a 51-year-old woman dating a 37-year-old man. The sex is the best ever. With him I also experience ejaculations, more and more and with increasing fluids. I always empty my bladder before having sex. I know it’s coming from my vagina because his penis is pushed out when it happens. And he has a size of 18 cm, so he is not small. He can even feel the fluid hitting his penis inside my vagina.

    As for orgasms, for me they are not linked to orgasm happening in the brain. They feel good, but alone they are just ok. However, if they appear at the same time as a clitoris orgasm linked to the brain, I almost loose my conscience. They are heavy!!

    The only problem with these ejaculations/squirtings are that they get very wet! Really, really wet. Covering up doesn’t help. As I experience this several times (10-15) during intercourse, it’s a lot of fluid in total. I even go to the toilet afterwards and still have some urine.

    Does anybody know if this is possible to control? Or train to control?

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    Icarus Hammitt

    Hege, yes it can be controlled to a point… We are a new couple in our 40s… She likes me to give her permission to ejaculate so, when I tell her to wait (even though I really don’t want her to), she is able to hold off for quite a while. She says it makes it better for her. Some of the things I do change the way she ejaculates (so the ceiling fan doesn’t always get soaked)… We both like “all-nighters” so it gets crazy. Sometimes she can’t move afterward; sometimes she can’t even speak. As for the amount of ejaculate, it’s like a gallon every night (for 18 nights straight now)… She drinks gallons of water per day, but it still doesn’t seem humanly possible no matter what the composition… She’s told me that being in love has enhanced everything and she’s never experienced anything like this…

  16. usuario

    I can’t ever reach climax and I feel there might be something wrong with me. I try and try but it doesn’t work… Please help!

    • usuario

      Nothing is wrong with you. It just sounds like you have to keep trying. I found that can never cum unless I’m on top, really riding him so that my clit gets very stimulated. I also find I can cum a lot faster and easier if I use a lubricant with menthol, like Durex Play Tingling or other organism stimulating products 🙂 But I do know that I have to be stimulated both through my vagi a and my clit. Hope this helps, all the best!

    • usuario

      Sarah don’t give up & there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. I was 38 my 1st time. I know I was thinking too much about it instead of relaxing & then I found the perfect partner that made me feel 100% comfortable with my sexuality. Also try different vibrators or glass dildos are good or just your fingers, just relax & let go… it’ll happen. When you find exactly where your g-spot is you will learn what works best as in milking it or getting yourself to gush or squirt.

    • usuario

      You’re trying too hard can make it even less likely to happen. Can you reach orgasm while masturbating?

    • usuario

      Hi Sarah,
      I just posted a reply on the main post. It’s what’s worked for me for the last 25 years.
      The keeping your legs together may be because I think my ex was maybe smaller than average so it was a bit of an art form – but was pretty much the only way I could reach climax with him during intercourse.
      Just met a great guy who get me aroused just by conversation through text – looking forward to trying this method with him when we get to that point – have a feeling the earth is going to shake.
      Good luck honey xx

    • usuario

      Hey Sarah… I do feel your pain. I had the same problem for four damned years when I was dating my first boyfriend but one day I was rubbing my clitoris and it happened… All I can say is that don’t get frustrated about it… but take it slow and easy learn more about your body and the places that turn you on more then concentrate on them take in all the pleasure you get from them. You can also take a scented bath, some music which puts you in the mood, porn if you are ok with it, dildos and masturbation… Best of luck

    • usuario

      Honestly, I couldn’t reach a climax for a long time and I used to say that I couldn’t do it. My boyfriend told me to stop trying so hard and just focus on what’s happening down there, it really helps! It was hard to get my brain to stop trying, but once I did, I was very glad he taught me.

  17. usuario

    I had ejaculated before in my twenties from hardcore masturbation. But in my mid thirties, I bought a new dildo that is ribbed and slightly curved, and I can only use it in my bathroom from the insane amount of fluid. I’m pretty sure I know why doggy style is my favorite position. The angle hits that spot. Seriously though, it’s almost annoying and kind of shocking the amount of orgasms I can give myself and the huge puddle I have to clean up. Another person with enough dedication can do something similar and in my mind, better, because human touch is the ultimate turn on.

  18. usuario

    Hello All,

    I’ve enjoyed this thread. I am a 46-year-old who has always been very sexual—to the consternation of my Catholic mother—but not terribly orgasmic. If I had a big G spot, I promise I would have found it before I turned 13. Only recently, with the help of a powerful vibrator, have I enjoyed the orgasms described in this article. Earth shattering, big mess. I assumed it was pee. And then I had aftershocks for hours.

    Side note for the urologists in this thread: I used to pee a little when I sneezed, jumped, or laughed too hard. I’m a mom of four; pretty common issue. After I started using the Magic Wand and had a few big orgasms—I don’t have this issue anymore. Ever. I must have strengthened the muscles around my bladder… Kegels didn’t work but the Magic Wand sure did!

  19. usuario

    So I’ve recently learned to ejaculate. I’m pretty sure that it happened once before during masturbation. I’m getting close to the age of menopause and every time my husband and I enjoy this, I start my period the next day. Even if I’ve had one 5 days prior. It’s quite frustrating. Any thoughts?

  20. usuario

    Hi Sarah,
    When getting aroused during intercourse try being on top as you get closer drop you’re legs down so you are virtually lying on top. Keep the momentum going, whilst pressing your body hard against his, to really stimulate and put a bit of pressure against the clitois and walah!!! Sometimes helps to have your legs quite close together against whilst keeping the momentum. Hope this helps. Happy riding 😉

  21. usuario

    Am 25 honestly speaking I used not to believe in squirting… saying that it was pee or faked like the fellows who don’t believe that it is possible…back then when the sex was good I used to feel the urge to pee but would block it or shove my partner off n ran to the restroom😳… but all that changed when I was having a doggie with my new partner when some fluid gashed out… I was quite embarrassed about it but my partner was happy about it and he explained to me what it was and encouraged me not to hold it in…😉 Now I squirt with cow girl, doggie, with my legs raised and when he stimulates my G-spot with his finger… I can squirt more than five times in a session… I ease myself before we have sex and also after we have had sex… and it doesn’t smell like pee at all… So other ladies who haven’t experienced it, try to learn more about your bodies and also don’t feel embarrassed and hold it in when it happens… Best of luck and happy trials…

  22. usuario

    I do believe that female cum comes from the urethra, to be honest… where else? Otherwise it would be confused with vaginal discharge, which has other properties, texture, smell, etc. After all, let’s face it: female cum is liquid, like water, and similar to pee… so it’s only logical to say that it has some sort of relationship with urine. I’m not saying it’s urine, but that it’s obviously related to it. Hope you haters do not kill me now!

  23. usuario

    I am 47 and I have been squirting, for since I had my children, couldn’t do it before but since kids no problem either on my own or with my husband.
    It is the best sensation, add an orgasm too and WOW. It is defo not urine, you can tell the difference.

    For the women who haven’t managed it, try playing with your clitoruis but keep going and see if you hit the spot.

  24. usuario


    I gush with orgasm and would be happy to prove the medical field wrong if they think it’s urine. If it is urine then I’m baffled because I empty my bladder before sex, it’s clear, has no odor, feels nothing like pee as it’s ejaculated and has a sweet taste. I have been doing this for 20 years: before kids, after kids…

    I have to put waterproof bad on bed and stack towels. It’s a great feeling. In my youth it embarrassed me and I thought it was urine but it never looked yellow or smelled. Now I don’t worry. It is what it is. I volunteer to masturbate and have this liquid studied. The quantity is beyond what one would think is normal or what the body should be able to produce. It’s a mystery and having seen some porn when searching for answers and seeing the women “spray” – If it’s a camera trick so be it; however, for me, it looks the same and it isn’t a trick.

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    anny watson

    Heya! My problem is that i ve been masturbating since i was 18.
    The thing is dat i never came out! Just there is a feeling of satisfaction but no liquid came out ever at the tine of fingering. Yeah, it comes with pee only. 🙁
    Is it a problem? How can i fix it??

  26. usuario

    Well I must say, this discussion was just as interesting as the article itself.

    One thing I’ve learned in life, the hard way: no matter how successful, respected, or even famous any doctor is – they are often wrong. They also often don’t even know things you would think they would and should know. Even two doctors in the exact same field can be not just different, but even actually diametrically opposite in their approach to the exact same condition with the exact same person, as in a full 180 degrees. Go figure. I’m not buying any bulls–t about how it’s not real and it’s only urine. I am buying the extremely credible accounts of those who say otherwise. And I’m well able to second guess any doctor, as everyone should be, but if any doctor or PhD with a big head and presumption of their own infallibility wants to say otherwise then I’ll explain why I’m so well able later. But any good and great doctor or scientist will not have that kind of big head – that’s the key. I once saw a doctor on the news say that any good doctor knows that a patient knows their own body far better than any doctor can – and that doctor was right.

    Anyway…so what specifically is the best way or are the best ways to stimulate a woman to enable her to experience these kinds of orgasms, ejaculation, squirting, and gushing? Aside from any element of clitoral stimulation, is there another “spot” besides the “G spot”? If so, where exactly is this other spot, and what must one do to it?