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IVF failure and horror stories

IVF failure and horror stories

  1. melisa

    Every week becomes so hard when a woman wants to create a family. Families which face infertility look the same as other families. I have been trying for the last 7 years to get pregnant but I failed. And I believe I have to meet experts who know the solution.
    I started my journey online a few months ago. I’ve been sharing my stories online for a long time. I have been working really hard on the things which make me perfect. I want to show the world that infertility issues can be solved and that they can be changed if we make it.
    For the last few years, I’ve been facing the issue of infertility. The fear of not having a baby was killing me from inside. I wanted to share my experience; I did not understand what I had to do. I reached many people who faced the same situation.
    I am here to connect with people who are feeling the same. I am looking for some support and advice on how can I come up with the day when I finally have a child. I have been trying all day long to share my struggle and I want to tell people that they are not alone.
    I know it is not going to be easy. I am going for some of the tests next week. The tests will show what I have to do next. I know it takes time and it takes efforts to understand what it really means. I hope god blesses me through my efforts.

    09/17/2017 at 6:33 pm
  2. Hello melisa,

    Thank you very much for sharing your story. I’m really sorry for your situation… what is the cause of infertility in your case? Have you considered using donor eggs or a gestational carrier, or even adoption? There are many options nowadays to create a family.

    See you soon,

    Best regards

    09/20/2017 at 4:32 pm
  3. I have considered using donor eggs but I am afraid of not getting the results. I have been trying a lot. Adoptiion is not an option for me. I really want to change and want to make myself happy.

    Thank you for the support

    09/21/2017 at 6:55 am
    • I’ll agree with you, adoption isn’t an easy process. Sometimes it’s as financially and emotionally draining as surrogacy. Besides the waiting time frames might be longer too. Still you’ve mentioned this is not the way out for you. I believe opting for the donor eggs will make good in your case. Here’s some of my background. I’m on the other side of the fence now. We’ve been successful after DE IVF shot performed in ukraine. On the whole this was our 3rd shot of treatments. We tried 2 cycles ivf with my ex. I was 39 yrs old. My ex had low sperm quality. And my right ovary seems never responded to treatments. Later my amh level turned out to be 3% only. My weight was 12 stone 7lbs. Our new dr felt no good about moving into another round ivf with my own eggs. She told us it was not going to work, in other words, chances were almost zero. So we turned to donor eggs. Our donor produced many healthy egg for us! At the ET they placed back 2 nice embies and we ended up with bfp. The reasons ivf doesn’t work may be very different. And it definitely irritates when you pass multiple shots and get no luck. You should investigate well with your dr. The reasons, possible improvements and ways out for you. You need to be patient. Hope things will get to their places soon and you’ll feel more confident with the way chosen. Unless you are healthy enough to carry pregnancy yourself donor eggs are more likely to be your next option. What does your dr say on the point??
      Hope this message will find you well.

      08/15/2018 at 2:04 pm
  4. Hi,
    thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been dealing with infertility for over two years (known infertility). I started IVF last November. I have failed 3 cycles and it starts to feel hopeless. The doctor isn’t giving up yet so neither am I. I do not know why I fail IVF, I produce eggs, they fertilize, however the implantation doesn’t seem to happen. I can completely relate to your frustrations. There are days I literally just cry with frustration, I feel like a failure as a woman. I know this post is from a year ago, I’m wondering if you’ve had any changes/updates since then? I appreciate being able to read your stories, this path can feel so lonely sometimes…

    07/25/2018 at 7:39 pm
    • Dear laurieab,

      I’m really sorry to hear your story, but you know what they say… Hope is the last thing to die! You say you failed 3 IVF cycles using own eggs. In these cases, normally the next step is to try with donor eggs, as maybe the cause why repeated implantation failure is related to poor egg quality. Have your doctor considered this option? If not, perhaps you should talk about it with him/her.

      I hope this helps,


      07/26/2018 at 8:25 am
    • Hi, laurieab. I’m so sorry you haven’t been successful with ivf rounds so far. Praying for your next shot will work out.
      A failed IVF cycle(s) is heart wrenching. It is painful because your dreams are shattered, your hard-earned money has gone down the tube and you do not know what to do next! As humans we all need an answer for the failures we encounter. Unfortunately there are too many reasons implantation fails. Seems your body rejects a new life being inside at particular term..A huge work now must be done by your dr. He must investigate well all the possible issues preventing you from successful pregnancy. If you get an answer for this, then you tend to have peace of mind. ‘Cause we believe that we can achieve success the next time around if we can rectify what went wrong in the previous attempt. Saty strong! Even though we’ve never met before I’ll keep you in my prayers.

      09/12/2018 at 12:03 pm
  5. I feel so sorry about you=(
    You know my husband and I were almost in the same boat. I had 5 rounds of failed IVFs treatment. And each time during the next treatment I hope that I would have a beautiful son or daughter. But nothing had happened.
    We were so exhausted that we started to think about surrogacy. Moreover, our fertility specialist also mentioned that we should be prepared for it. I dreamt to deliver my child myself. But after the 3rd round, I started to think about surrogacy.
    I just want to say that thank God today we have an alternative for infertility treatment. And It doesn’t matter who delivered your child. The main thing that it will be your baby.

    09/17/2018 at 1:18 pm
    • Hi, honey, I’m so sorry you’ve found yourself in this very situation. I’m with you. Surrogacy is nowadays blessing for many infertile couples. And all those 5 ivf attempts failure make you a true candidate for surrogacy. You should only have this issue to be confirmed by your dr. We’ve been through donor egg cycle overseas, successfully. I’m officially on the prego list now. This country is very popular for surrogacy though. And evaluating our further steps we just did a good research on how the procedure is performed there. So I’ve got a plenty of things to share with you. And probably I’d start with the list of questions which might be useful for you while considering the clinic. Hope this helps~
      How long has the program been in operation? Does the program maintain a referral listing of previous client couples?
      Does the program recruit its own surrogates? Through what means?
      Will they work with a surrogate recruited by the couple themselves?
      How are surrogates expenses handled? Is there a cap on these expenses?
      Does the program offer medical screening of the surrogate? To what extent? Who does the screening?
      Does medical screening include an AIDS test of surrogate and her partner?
      Is gestational surrogacy (also called surrogate IVF, host uterus) as well as traditional surrogacy available?
      What are the costs of surrogacy (traditional, gestational or donor)? What is the fee payment structure?
      What are the financial obligations incurred by the couple? What is the payment schedule?
      How long are the surrogate’s medical records kept?
      Does the program offer psychological screening and counseling to all parties? To what extent?
      Does the program offer on-site medical services (insemination or IVF) or do they work with local physicians and hospitals?
      How many babies have been born through the agency/clinic’s surrogacy programs?
      To what extent is contact between the surrogate and the couple encouraged? (By letter, meeting face-to-face, on-going?)
      Can the couple be present at the birth?
      What type of legal counsel is offered to the surrogate and the couple? Does this include the drawing up of contracts?
      Does the program offer finalization services?
      What are the fees for informational meetings or interviews?
      What are the financial obligations incurred by the couple? What is the payment schedule?
      If the surrogate does not get pregnant over a certain number of cycles, what is the clinic’s policy regarding refund of fees paid?
      In the event that the contract is not honored, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
      In the event that the surrogate has a pregnancy loss, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
      Does the program have a registry for the surrogate and children to exchange information when the child reaches maturity?

      10/12/2018 at 10:32 am
  6. Thought of this thing today. As humans we all need an answer for the failures we encounter. Why did a particular endeavor fail? If we get an answer for this, then we tend to have peace of mind, because we believe that we can achieve success the next time around if we can rectify what went wrong in the previous attempt. But when an IVF cycle fails unfortunately no one has an answer for the same – not even your doctor! You might have had a perfect cycle – lots of eggs, good fertilization rate, good quality embryos, excellent endometrium, easy embryo transfer – but no positive pregnancy test! On the other hand your friend might have had a very poor IVF cycle (with few eggs and poor quality embryos) and they might end up getting pregnant! IVF is like a gamble – which involves not only your money, but also your fragile baby dreams! The sad truth is that there is no logical explanation for the outcome of an IVF cycle – be it a success or a failure…

    12/13/2018 at 10:38 am
    • @MillieG, you’re so definitely right! Specific steps of IVF cycle always carry risks, including:
      Multiple births. IVF increases the risk of multiple births if more than one embryo is implanted in your uterus. A pregnancy with multiple fetuses carries a higher risk of early labor and low birth weight than pregnancy with a single fetus does.
      Premature delivery and low birth weight. Research suggests that use of IVF slightly increases the risk that a baby will be born early or with a low birth weight.
      Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome. Use of injectable fertility drugs, such as human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG), to induce ovulation can cause ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome, in which your ovaries become swollen and painful.
      Signs and symptoms typically last a week and include mild abdominal pain, bloating, nausea, vomiting and diarrhea. If you become pregnant, however, your symptoms might last several weeks. Rarely, it’s possible to develop a more-severe form of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome that can also cause rapid weight gain and shortness of breath.
      Miscarriage. The rate of miscarriage for women who conceive using IVF with fresh embryos is similar to that of women who conceive naturally – about 15 to 25 percent – but the rate increases with maternal age. Use of frozen embryos during IVF, however, may slightly increase the risk of miscarriage.
      Egg-retrieval procedure complications. Use of an aspirating needle to collect eggs could possibly cause bleeding, infection or damage to the bowel, bladder or a blood vessel. Risks are also associated with general anesthesia, if used.
      Ectopic pregnancy. About 2 to 5 percent of women who use IVF will have an ectopic pregnancy – when the fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, usually in a fallopian tube. The fertilized egg can’t survive outside the uterus, and there’s no way to continue the pregnancy.
      Birth defects. The age of the mother is the primary risk factor in the development of birth defects, no matter how the child is conceived. More research is needed to determine whether babies conceived using IVF might be at increased risk of certain birth defects. Some experts believe that the use of IVF does not increase the risk of having a baby with birth defects.
      Ovarian cancer. Although some early studies suggested there may be a link between certain medications used to stimulate egg growth and the development of a specific type of ovarian tumor, more recent studies do not support these findings.
      Stress. Use of IVF can be financially, physically and emotionally draining. Support from counselors, family and friends can help you and your partner through the ups and downs of infertility treatment.
      I’m 39 yrs old with 2 cycles ivf with my ex with low sperm quality behind. My right ovary never responded to the treatment. With my new dh came to the conclusion we’d need more opinions on the point, so did a huge work on self educating on ivf with donor egg which led us overseas. My amh is extremelly low so our new dr and we actually weren’t counting on those 3% chance with oe, so went straight to egg donation.
      We all have to get ready for what IVF treatment actually involves and be realistic over the things.

      01/17/2019 at 9:45 am
  7. The first thing I’d say is, if you first look upon ivf process and google its risk and it doesn’t take you much time to get such a list:
    Multiple births: IVF increases your risk of multiple births if more than one embryo is implanted in your uterus. If you become pregnant with multiple babies, you may have a higher risk of early labor.
    A premature delivery and a low birth weight.
    Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome: This occurs when your ovaries become swollen and painful. This syndrome can occur due to the use of injectable fertility drugs. You may experience symptoms like abdominal pain, bloating, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea. If you become pregnant, you may experience these symptoms for several weeks. Or may not at all.
    A miscarriage: Though the rate of miscarriage for women who conceive using IVF is similar to that of women who conceive naturally, the rate can increase as the age of the mother increases. Using frozen embryos during IVF has been known to slightly increase the risk of a miscarriage.
    Complications during the egg-retrieval procedure: The doctor will need to use an aspirating needle to the collect the eggs and this could cause bleeding, infection, or damage to your bowels, bladder, or a blood vessel.
    An ectopic pregnancy: This occurs when the fertilized egg implants outside the uterus. Usually in the fallopian tube. About 2 to 5 percent of women who use IVF will have an ectopic pregnancy.
    Birth defects: there is evidence that the rate of birth defects in IVF pregnancies is slightly higher than in spontaneous pregnancies. But the exact mechanism for this is unclear. #this list added with every other site#
    So I’m going to ask ”How on Earth one can be sure your baby is absolutely healthy and guarantee this to you??!!” Preimplantation testings are the option, I absolutely agree though.

    01/07/2020 at 5:01 pm