Hello everyone! I live in Boston and a close friend of mine is asking me to donate my sperm to her. I’m a healthy guy and good-looking. I’m sure I’m a healthy man because I undergo blood tests every year and I don’t smoke, drink or take drugs. I basically lead a healthy lifestyle. But I’ve never thought of becoming a sperm donor, although I’m single. But my friend is lesbian and she is desperate to have a child. I don’t know what to do, because I’m not sure but I know this means a lot to her and I don’t want to disappoint her… What can you tell me? Thanks!!October 6, 2015 at 7:29 pm
ANN TANNER’S QUERY ON TOPIC Opinions on DIY sperm donation:
Nice to meet you all, We’re a lesbian couple from Cincinnati, OH. We’ve been together for 5 years (we started too young!) and now we’re getting married in a year. Next thing we’d like to do is having a child. We’d like to make it easy and quick, so we believe sperm donor conception is the best choice for us. We don’t mind choosing a stranger, in fact we’d like that our child gets to know his/her donor in the future, but we don’t want to carry it out through a sperm bank or private center. We just want to find a man who is keen to do it generously at home for us, just as simple as that. We’ve heard about “DIY donor insemination”, which we think is the option we’re looking for, so could you tell us what are the dos and don’ts of this process? I just wanna make sure no problem will be derived from the process. BTW, even though there wouldn’t be legal contracts, we’ll carry out a thorough interview previously.
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REPLY TO ANN TANNER:
Dear Ann Tanner,
Choosing a friend as a sperm donor is a risky, difficult decision which is not advisable, mainly because sperm donors are not just about a pretty face but about a healthy man both physically and mentally. For this to be proved, sperm donors must pass a series of thorough assessments so that his health state is checked. If you choose a friend as your sperm donor, there is no legal contract, and therefore he does not have any legal obligation or right regarding the baby or the process.
Formality and transparency are key concepts within this process and you should bear it in mind from now on. At the end, the process of sperm donation will be the same. But the advantages of carrying it out through a clinic or a sperm bank is that both you and the donor are required to sign a contract to continue with the process. There you both agree on different aspects of the process, being the parent custody one of them, which clearly states that the donor has no rights in respect of the donor-conceived individual.
Conversely, if you choose the DIY option, you are risking the relationship between you and a friend, because further problems with the donor may arise in the future, especially when the baby is born, for instance. Thus, if you don’t want your sperm donor to have any parental right, my recommendation is that you formalize the process. Besides, the donor will provide his sperm through a licensed physician, which guarantees it is a healthy semen sample.
Hope this helpsOctober 7, 2015 at 5:48 pm
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