Having 2 babies for both of us to be their biological parents

Hello there! We’re a gay couple wishing to have a child via surrogacy here in the US, but we’ve got a question that’s killing us, can u help? Well, it’s because we both want to be the genetic parents of the baby, but we know it’s kinda impossible. We don’t know if there’s the slightest chance for this to happen, but if not we’ve got an idea. You see in principle we wanted to just have 1 baby, but now we think if we have 2 babies then we both could be the genetic parents. What do u think? Is is possible? And we wanted to use my sis as our egg donor and my partner’s semen sample. Thx for your help!

Hello EricMatter,

What you are suggesting is that each of you becomes the genetic father of the baby, an option that is possible if you undertake surrogacy in the USA. In such case, you both could contribute a semen sample, so that the embryos are created using sperm from each of you and donor eggs. Out of the resulting embryos, a high-quality embryo created from your sperm and another created from your partner’s sperm would be selected, and both would be transferred to the surrogate’s uterus. In other words, an embryo from each father would be transferred.

And yes, it is also possible that your sister becomes your egg donor provided that she is previously medically and psychologically screened and she passes all tests. If she is accepted as an egg donor, her eggs would be fertilized with your partner’s sperm. Out of the resulting embryos from this fusion, only those presenting an exceptional quality would be selected and transferred to the surrogate.

You should keep in mind that every pregnancy process entails various risks, and especially when it is a multiple pregnancy, since any complication arising would be way more severe than normal. This could translate into a problem for both the gestational carrier and the babies. Besides, the woman acting as a surrogate is helping you become parents, so you should ensure her safety and general wellness. For all these motives, my advice is that you transfer just a single embryo.

I hope this helps,

Best regards